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May 21, 2016

Date Night!

I posted recently about our Family Fun Days and how important it is to dedicate time to your children. Well it's just as important, if not more so to dedicate time to your spouse and your marriage. I'll admit this is something I was very bad at when I first had kids. But I realized that doing things for myself and for my relationship was important to help me be a better mother and wife (ultimately my first marriage failed, but not due to a lack of my trying). Sometimes it is okay to be a little selfish! After your children grow up and leave the house, who's there with you? Your spouse. You've got to make sure that relationship is healthy and strong!

I mentioned in our Love Story that when Chris and I were together 11 years ago, we did lots of fun romantic things together. Always going out to eat, to the movies, taking trips. But with 5 (soon to be 6) kids full time, it's hard to find time or the money for that matter to do things just the two of us. So we improvise..

Bedtime in our house is strictly enforced. Kids go into their rooms at 7 for "quiet time" and lights out is at 8. The kids know we're "off duty" unless of course there's an emergency! This gives me time to clean up the house and Chris finish any work he needs to get done. And then we have time to ourselves. We get a snack, put on a show or movie and snuggle up in bed together. Every. Single. Night. 

Once a month we try to do an actual Date Night. The grand parents are amazing and love to babysit once in a while.. So we'll do a date night at home where we pick a new recipe from Pinterest and cook together, then rent a movie. Or sometimes we'll go out shopping, who doesn't love shopping?! and grab something to eat. When the weather is nice we love to take the dogs for a walk down to the lake and picnic for dinner. And before I was pregnant we'd go out for a couple drinks and play pool.. But I don't see that one happening again for a long time! Haha.

I know I say this all the time.. But Chris is undoubtably my soulmate and I am so in love with him. Married, 5 kids, with a baby on the way and the "honeymoon phase" hasn't ended. I still get butterflies when he walks in the door and the way he looks at me, my heart just melts! I want us to be that couple in 50 years that's still as ridiculously in love as they were way back when. Part of it really is the connection, and we have it! But we also need to make sure we continue to nurture our relationship. He and I know how important these Date Nights are for our marriage! Also the best thing we can do for our children is show them a healthy relationship with two people who really love and respect each other! 

Tonight is Date Night.. And I am so looking forward to some one on one time with my Husband! 

Our Last Date Night 

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